Being Embarrassed With Another Person There
Experiencing wildly out of balance moments with another person there can just be embarrassing. That is if you realize there is another person there at all. Too many times it could feel like being a bug pinned down with that ever-ready metal stake through its tail. Constantly on edge and always prepared for the observers with their magnifying glasses to take your actions and behavior to pieces. People will either want to ignore you or examine you to find out what other tests need to be carried out for normality to occur. Like a spirit broken, wild animal with little, if any will of its own is left to show is hidden rather than show a person whose love of playing freely has been wiped out.
Slowly, given time and repeat experiences, a behavior pattern within certain situations emerges. Some on the Autism Spectrum manage to learn to blend within the crowd. Of course, as these people are busy hiding in “normality’ within in authoritative communities they know the what buttons to press and which strings to pull with regards to another.. React in the way they think and other trigger actions come into play. Don’t react in that way and it feels like a time bomb waiting to go off before the next round of the mental mind games begin.
One thing builds up and another ‘rolls in’. One momentary slip-up and those walking the meltdown tight-rope are going to probably slip only to hear… “opps and orrr” there she goes again behaving weirdly.
At times Behaviour Is Mirrored With Another Person There.
What an opportunity to see behavior reflected through another’s eyes with another person there. Now there are choices to be made. At these points people with autistic character traitis, either go onwards, or hide. Once again the pain may become internalized or expressed. Usually both to some degree. One pain filled moment after the next needing to be released. And usually in some ‘odd’ repetitive behavior that ends up annoying other people. But now with another person, there is an avenue for change input suggestions.
Once again the pain may become internalized or expressed. Usually both to some degree may be seen in a creative painting siggesting the torn within emotions. One pain filled moment after the next needing to be released and canvases later there is now little room to hang them. What usually happens is that some ‘odd’ repetitive behavior ends up annoying other people.
Seek out some another person. There is an avenue for change input suggestions. Ask for feedback from that other person. There are many ‘normal’ people who see Autism As A Gift through their own ‘undiscovered’ autistic traits and characteristics.
Give yourself a break. Something that needs to happen to function properly is to have a balance between rest and activity.
Effectively you could say ( or presume) that the usual state of ‘most people’ is to be in touch with reality. On occasion going for walk along the beach, an able along a country path or greenbelt pathway, a swim, gym time, fishing, yoga, tai chi. Very often it’s there are so many things that each person must face, will experience, and can choose to do.
Twos ‘company’ with another person there
Sometimes we feel like we click with another person there, pushing you, challenging you to just do better than what you thought was you best. There comes a sense of confidence in being with another person who quietly has what appears so much confidence in the learned behaviors of society. Yet when there is another person, there is room to try to learn something new about a subject.
Augusten Burroughs puts it, so delicately lays it on the line… “There is no shame in being hungry for another person. There is no shame in wanting very much to share your life with somebody”. At times even someone who has been in a sumular situation is sending directly to you a broadcast or a message regularly.
Tranquil times exist even if your inner child is the other person there!
As a person somewhere on the Autism Spectrum, I must admit that knowing how valuable these tranquil times are for myself, when someone else is stuck in the busy time zone and you see them approaching the ‘burn out’ area encourage them to find where their tranquil zone balance is.Some find that concentration on a single object does this, other get their desired effect being alone with nature.
Each person is their own unique self. At some stage, something else may replace a tranquility achievement pathway. Some like to stay comfortable and by themselves. Other need the challenge of another persin there to come home or back too. Even if that other living thing is an animal, not an actual person.
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