ingrained level

“The moment that we believe that success is determined by an ingrained level of ability we will be brittle in the face of adversity” ~ Josh Waitzin

Did I know I was different? Maybe. Physically I was born with dislocating hips and club feet. My father was a policeman. Where we tended to live, this was considered  to be attached too. So much so that when young the owner of two stations set them onto my Jack Russel. Not a great memory to repress. Mentally the answer was until 2009 I actually thought that I was Sometimes with an ingrained level of curiosity to make mistakes may bring forward creativity!considered dumb. A dim-wit. My friends could write and do things that mattered to me. What I learned was to keep going and that when you got to the point you had succeeded that far. Next step was…

Although I do not consciously recall the majority of the negatives, I do recall a few teachers that are special to me – all male. Later in life when I needed to show someone how to do something it was done modeling on these people’s methods.

I knew that I had to do homework differently. Last minute cramming for a test was useless After nearly 50 years the words a mental block finally made sense. Short term was great. Middle forget about!. Once in the information stayed there. Even ofter a truck impact in 1991 the information would stay there. So much so that it was locked down and not allowed out. No memories at all. Which of course was frustration as things would be done intuitively with no recollection rational or reasoning behind them. So we went a two-hour drive to the library for books to research thing with.

Helping our older with early schooling and then the oldest boy with preschool class time through the home study was terrific.

Simple, as I had the basics of learning connections happening. Our oldest daughter was seven at the time and, unknowingly, was teaching me to read and maths. To guide someone through correspondence, something one needs to be able to read right? To read stories, one needs to know the words. How to use grammar. The lessons taught it  Practice it!

Just Checking Out Autism As A Gift from a different perspective.... that of an ingrained level of relearningThough with two high-functioning boys and a girl plus a baby.  Nearly always with no car and an extremely limited knowledge of the world.  We lived in the bush.  At least 2 of the world’s first seven deadly snakes lived in that area of bushland.

Until I learned what a snake was I was a danger to the children’s safety.

While I made the intuitive sounds, the pictures showed she would read out loud. Then the other children followed. Just after they went to bed, I was in bed exhausted. Out light a light. Mental overload just from the children being read a golden book.

Deep at some ingrained level people may be experiencing some empahty is to be able to walking someone else's bootsSchooling for myself was horrible. Spelling took all my time. They did not have the world for dyslexia then other that ” what is this trash” “you can do better” and I can remember something about a ‘Z’ grade. Had I fallen asleep during the lessons on spelling?

Computers became fun once I realised what the little green and red squiggly lines were. Plus the computer would remember the mistakes and after everything was written proofread was far quicker than the laborious job it was before. Nore did I have to write the 30 copies of the same page just to get the spelling right. Hence the ‘big’ printing. Or the scrawly tiny thin lettering. Harder to read the mistakes. Computers, well you hit the error, and there is the selection. Hopefully on the first time.

Although I now use willingly an application for this correcting situation as when things are written, the mistakes are still there. Now my fingers do the talking. They create the pictures that are used in the blog posts. And if I have made a spelling mistake in a quote the tool that is used has a method of just going back into the library and changing the spelling, finalising and downloading the original.

Susan Lewis from with an ingrained level of empathey
Susan Lewis

In answer to the “did I know I was different ” question. Yes. I became aware of that. Just not what to do to improve and become like anyone else and achieve at something like everyone else was doing So I know now I am different. Yes. And thankfully you will not have gone through the things that I have experienced. Life would be extremely boring if we were all the same.

 

 

We are in this together

After 56 years one would think that a person knows when not to recognise the sign and feel some of the frustrations of both the child and the parent sitting quietly in front of you. One hour was watching as at first the father sat there with two children, Looked up and thought Yes you are on the spectrum. Then looked at the children. Having been in the same place a few weeks ago, I was privileged to see these two preteenagers already accepted into the community. One could see that they knew there was a difference between them and most of the other children playing.

Empathy is to be able to walk in someone else's boots so we are in in this Autism Spectrum together. Knowing that someone else is thinking thank you as we are in this together.Now the mother came in. Sat down. Bent down and opened a material thing. Turns out there was a material road complete with velcro into place bridge. I gazed in wonder at that toy knowing that had my two boys [ especially the youngest had something like that things may have been easier. But no instead my son at the age of two wonders around and collected all the cushions. Each week was the same. Just different a timetable. Off he would quietly go around and remove every one of the thin cushions. Promptly built a castle wall around himself with me within. There were sixty-five of these cushions. That last odd one always annoyed him. Until he was shown by an older lady to sit on it himself. That solved that frustration. The older woman was in her sixties then also had tales to share. Like mine were developing into. And passing on the ‘we are all in this together’ eye contact, a nod, and a wink.

Next, the child placed the mat carefully to one side of the walkway. Sat there lining up the toy cars and a plane neatly: 1, 2 and then 1, 2 and again 1,2 until all twelve toys were in place. The arrangement changed throughout the hour. The mother was carefully dividing her attention between the games progression for telltale signs and what was happening at the front with the speaker.
Like a timed precision requirement out came the second mat as the fishers were required to walk up and down the walkway walking around with the collection bag.

As everyone else filed out, my own position changed. Facing the Lady the statement was made that “had I thought to have made these mats for a time like we had had my outings may have been slightly less anxiety-ridden.” As the conversations progressed, this tired mother started tp relax.

it only takes one smile to stop the tars. And a hug to chase away the fears. To know that we are in this together is a beautiful feeling at times.
Tears are from FEARS that boil over and spill down the cheeks. Smile and chase them away.

Not relax her guard, but with myself. As she realised the sincerity  and commonality of what someone experiencing bringing up a child through the Autism Spectrum the smiles started to appear more often,  They, the smiles, were beautiful to was as the flittered  out and lifted the room.

We were sharing a “we are in this together moment. Yes, the world needs all kinds of mums. Some of those moms choose to be available for the younger mums who are selflessly giving of themselves in to their community. Not even know that through the parents is where the Autism Spectrum Gene has come from. A case of looking into yourself will cause you to smile or have a major meltdown if you believe you are all by your own.

The lady in the isolated towns church when our son was little, well her son became one of the traveling ministers that visited the Church. Ours is a truck driver. Both these children had someone within the community recognize something akin to their own situation and quietly [ with parental permission] appointed themselves as a mentor.  That was where I relearned about empathy.  The ‘we are in this together’ attitude people sometimes are lucky enough to experience.

Susan Lewis thank you because we are in this together every time we may make contact
Susan Lewis

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“how I failed to be an ideal mum.’

 

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The Recovery and Loss Within Life

The Recovery and Loss Within Life  give us cause to be thankful

I do not know about yo, but the recovery and loss of what it is that I am trying to put out into the ‘net-is-phere’ is such a frustrating time.

For instance making just a simple lead capture page means so much to me.    Especially as this one is about and for ‘Autism As A Gift’.  As I have Autism and have gone through much to get to the point where I now see this as a gift that is what is going to be shared.   Not my view so much.  Although it will start that way.

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As the campaign associated gradually reaches people with Autism, anywhere on the spectrum, either their own or people that they are caring for, in some capacity respond to this call more will be shared through the Autism As A Gift site.

Which of course makes the recovery and loss of information factor and even great importance.

Why be thankful for recovery and loss times?

With every up there is a down.  Okay this is a given. There is also the fact that with every moment there is a learning time as well.  This learning time is called an experience.  Add experiences together and gradually there are life experiences built upon.

The same goes for ideas.   Have one idea.  Work with that idea.  Experiment and flounder.  Then add to that idea with wonder.  Now review and evaluate the whole thing.  Note that no matter how horrible things are looking.  That you may think you are going backwards, or around in circles, just do not panic.  Take a moment out in time  and just think… recovery and loss.    What can you recover from the time you have ‘lost’ gaining experience.  Your own personal experience.

That personal experience will replace other peoples stories and even all the book learning you have ever experienced.  Once again these are your experiences.  One idea and many little experiences.  Questions to be asked and things to work out. Probably more of those than you ever thought possible.

Then there is one thing that when all the negative dross has been removed is seen.  That is a golden nugget.  You sweated for it. You have earned the learning. Prize that piece of nugget.

Go back to that ideas outcome

Now you know how to do something with one thing. Practice with it.  Add to it.  For instance, last year when I started using WordPress themes again I started with one like this one.  Something went haywire and I caused a loop.  Asked for help and received it aplenty.  Thing is that somewhere in the Autism Effects I found that I could not work within the theme .  So another was chosen   And yet here I am using this one. And the colours of the subheadings are like Henry Fords colours for the cars.  People cold choose any colour they wanted as long as it was black.  By accident last year I was working with another list on some other platform.  Copied that list and pasted it into this theme.   And the colours came over as well.

Bringing in a spreadsheet…

12 month business strategic plan [ basics]
Purpose
To attract the traffic that then willing chooses to be lead in through the SFM / DEA sales funnel
12 month plan from to
Key Objectives – component of the process to bring vision to reality

 

Bringing in a document:

  • Vision Statement.To acknowledge the steps from childlike innocence to the gaining a new awareness subsequently improving your influence, knowledge basis and action rate is an incredible journey is a story that needs to be recorded.

 

  • Mission: Practical solutions, positive advice, quality products at a sustainable cost that encourages progression, understanding and interactive use of products and services.

Wondering at other things during the recovery and loss of information

Okay, the colours have not transferred over.  But guess what I may import and just not add color.  What I have noticed is at the bottom of this page – where you cannot see – is the script include area and other things that a particular widget on other themes is employed for.  With widgets set for optimum usage of ten in number [ written from memory please check this out for yourself]

Actually, I am wondering about the threads for the original document being tracked. and will that make this site noncompliant?

You see how through recovery and loss  with one idea another was brought forward.

And a certain amount of experimentation has begun with the ideas of.  The joining of ideas together means that conceptual thinking has started.prepareme-rightnow

1)  adding colour, 2)wanting colour, 3) the need to reduce the white spaces on the script, 4) threads, 5) remembering to save the draft copy several times over by now, 6) script inclusion areas just to name a few.  As a practical demonstration to the joining of ideas together this example is not bad. What it means is that getting over the blockage of last years recovery and loss stress time has allowed  conceptual thoughts to have started.

At times within an autistic person’s life integration of new procedures is something of a no-go zone.  Make mistakes 3d tv aLeave the thing you are doing.  Have time out. Go hug a tree, weed the garden, or chop firewood. Clear the mind.

Go back and do something else.  

The OCD part of your mind may yell and scream at you.  Ignore it.  Slowly the junk that hindered the process of recalling thoughts and actions will dissipate.  Then  something will happen.  And that mind blockage to the learning will remove itself. At which time I overload and fall asleep. Pen and paper nearly always with me when waking the steps to take are written down. It’s straight into what was happening before one step at a time explored. And after that has been fully explored [ and hopefully all the steps written down] one exhausted me goes back to bed.

Most autistic people are just so happy they have learned one thing that at this point they run around and give everyone the answers to the process. And are ignored.  Or worst given everyone else’s workload to do.  Now everyone else looks competent and you are left struggling to somehow get to your own work load.  Thus hindering their own progression forward.

That is why the statement of you own the information and the learning that through the recovery and loss process of learning you have just pieced together.

Susan Lewis from "susanlewismarketing.com and Autismasagift.com , susanisonline.com, acreativehas.com
Susan Lewis

 

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