From freedom, independence comes. Or the other way around.
One of the best gifts for an autistic child is to instill within them the freedom independence that creative concepts of marketing themselves are there ready to be used.
From an early age the tools and apps, along with the spiritual, mental and physical aspects of life become toys for autistic toddlers and beyond. That is, if these actions are not already there from conception onwards. Ready receptive autistic minds absorb anything that crosses the mother’s mind.
Freedom, independence and security issues
What happens when there are challenges with freedom, independence and safety issues.
A symbolic representation in Kant’s Practical Philosophy quietly puts ” Freedom (independence from being constrained by another’s choice)”
From that early age until they are ready to leave the ‘nest’ and for a while after the children are learning independence. Achieving this is not only where they do not reply to others to survive. Too often one people will have a gap within.
They look for an internal security balance. Another person is found who fills that gaps. That each ‘borrows’ from the other is good for a while. Unless a dominance / dependence situation exists. The feeling then is as though your energy is being sucked out. Relationships begin to be dominated, and cracks start to develop.
Sometimes these exist behind a hidden agenda instilled in childhood. A danger for many autistic children is that they visualize the words stated to them. Say someone who’s grumpy makes a derogatory remark about being held by a female with ginormous muscles in the arms. Say that that receiver of the comment is fit from swimming kilometers a day. A throwaway comment like that on someone who is independent but underneath is lonely will be absorbed. The mind does not know the difference between fiction and fact. If the receiver of the comment does not have a behavior management plan installed where they can recognize the negative impact and literally wrestle the negative out of hiding, deal with it the sometime in the future this ‘destructive word worm’ will have had time to gain teeth, get hungry and delve into the foundations. The obvious two things at different ends of the scale may begin to occur. Weight issues.
Mind challenging freedom; independence issues Accepted.
The focused power behind many Autistic people’s minds is Awesome.
Furthering the example above whether it be eating as comfort food is there. And the weight piles on. Alternatively, the desire to be thinner takes over. Bilmanieia or anemia has a chance to settle in. Either way, the mind has forcefully taken control.
Having a health professionals direction to loose the weight through guided assistance will also have implanted into the mind a target goal. A limitation. Giving a form of limited freedom. Independence to accept the limit as a guideline of achieving that exernally suggested instead of ‘imposed’ healthy limit.
Conversely, allowing the child to grow up with total freedom is mean. Where there are no boundaries to the freedoms, behaviours becomes a challenge. Acceptable behaviours need to be explained, shown and guided. Behaviours management with Autistic child, even as adults, more so. Which is actually quite strange me saying this as my eighty-year-old mother still guides me through the jungle of acceptability? Mind you though there is the slight issue of having sustained silent, unseen injuries through a truck imploding through the front of the van I was driving. I was 31 years old. Apparently the mother of three children I did not recognise. And that was just the start of the journey through the next 25 years as I fought a mind that would not release information about who I was, where I had been and even where I was going. More over, a mind that wanted to hide and be like a child again.
That resulted in Autistic Post-Traumatic Shock Syndrome. Over the last few years the inner child within finally escaped memory lockdown.
To say that the last few years has been a wild ride is only just touching on the obvious.
Let’s wrap up the freedoms. Independence issue. Concerning “Autism As A Gift.”
When the freedoms permitted, bring forward the concepts and responsibilities of having freedom granted this is a highly grateful time for all. Essentially the ‘inner child’ has developed a complete or total liberty that is without fear or being threatened. What an excellent for thing for a person to achieve.
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